Life is always changing, always requiring us to balance...
Wouldn't it be nice to wake up every day to having life be this perfect setup, with no worries at all, no balancing, organizing, processing, analyzing, or managing emotions, especially theirs? Some days are in fact like that, but you didn't get to live that kind of day, or hour, or minute, without having worked at it. You're always balancing.
Marriage requires attentiveness, consideration, thoughtfulness, cooperation, and a lot of communication and balancing; it's give and take, and often, it's more give than take, and that's ok as long as the balance doesn't feel like it's in disequilibrium. When it does, it's time for....
Communication. Talking. Sharing. Hard conversations. Feelings. Wants. Desires. Boundaries. Even the best recipes had repeated tweaks and changes. A successful marriage isn't static. You have to stay fluid with the flow, even when, especially when that flow is disrupted with waves, peaks, and valleys. Often, a reset is needed, or revisiting to what's important, and sifting through what is not. We get mired down in life, and we get comfortable with the uncomfortable, the strained communication, the invalidation, and the lack of trust and connection.
Your marriage is rebuildable, with learning how to communicate more effectively, validating and acknowledging with impartial and fair listening, commitment, and easily implementable strategies and techniques that will rebuild trust and connection.
Or, you may be thinking of separation, or divorce. This is not to be taken lightly. Often, when an individual or couple sits down with an impartial, non-judgemental Professional like myself, we are able to work through the concerns and the myriad of emotional and functional hurdles and challenges you may be facing, including learning how to communicate with your Ex, co-parent, create boundaries, and what to say when.
